I sent an invitation to the guy that robbed me!

Computers and technology have provided some wonderful improvements to many areas of our lives. But, as we become comfortable with them, we sometimes “lose” common sense. Other times, we simply don’t think about the consequences of our actions.

E-mail makes it easy to communicate. Before e-mail, we could make a phone call. But, if it were the middle of the night, we might need to wait until morning. Or, if the person didn’t answer, we had to leave a message (if they had an answering machine) or call back later. Now, we can just prepare an e-mail and hit “send.”

Some time after e-mail was developed, e-mail programs began to add the possibility of sending an automatic reply. That is convenient if you are out of the office for a couple of days. Just set up an automatic response that says, “I will be out of the office until Monday.” Then the person sending the e-mail won’t be upset if we don’t reply quickly enough. Perhaps we see someone else do that and we think, “I should do that, too.” In this way, we can enhance our responsiveness. However, we may not think about the implications if we do. Continue reading “I sent an invitation to the guy that robbed me!”

E-mail from my Sister!

Thanksgiving morning. Early. I check my e-mail and see a message from my sister.

3:24 a.m….. She was up early. Or maybe was still up from Wednesday night.

She said “hi phil” and then included a link, closing with her name in the format doejane (although it had her real name instead of doejane).

I looked at the link and it appeared to go to some blog.

Why is she just sending me a link?

image of e-mail described in this post

I am always suspicious when I receive an e-mail with just a link, especially if the link looks to me like it is a blog. And yet, it appears to be from my sister on Thanksgiving day. Could it really be legitimate?

It was sent to my e-mail address that I only give to my family and a couple of other restricted places. So, if it isn’t my sister, how did they know I have this particular e-mail address.

If this were to happen to you, what would you do?

As for me, I wouldn’t follow the link. If it isn’t a safe link, clicking on it is a good way to get your computer compromised . Even if the e-mail is really from someone you know. I looked a little further.

The e-mail address was [mysistersname]@tampabay.rr.com. Well, that’s strange. If it ends in tampabay.rr.com, that means that the person sending it gets their Internet service from Charter Communications, previously Time Warner Cable. More specifically, they get it from the TampaBay location for that provider. That means they are/were located in the Tampa area. (Or they are faking their address as coming from there.)

But my sister lives in the northeast part of the nation.


same image as above, but with 'tampabay' circled

So, now I have the following information:

The person sending the e-mail connects from a Tampa area account (or pretends to).
The person’s e-mail sounds like a personal e-mail but only includes “hi phil” plus a link, and then their name (run together with no space, last name first).

This is pretty suspicious. It has to be an attempt to fool me. If I were to click on that link, I would likely have a compromised computer.

But the perpetrator did several things amazingly well.

1) They used my sister’s actual name. It is a bit unusual that it is lower case and signed “last name first,” run together with no space. But some of my friends sign their names all lower case.

2) They sent it to me using my e-mail address that is given out to very few people. I give out my other e-mail addresses to lots of people, but not this one.

3) They sent it on Thanksgiving Day, a time that loved ones are more likely to be in contact with us.

Would you have clicked on the link?


So, how should you handle this? The bad guys are smart (at least some of them). You don’t want to ignore e-mail from loved ones.

Let’s examine this situation. There are clues that there might be a problem.

The biggest clue is the address specifies it came from the wrong part of the country. But if the address had been from @gmail.com, we wouldn’t have that clue. And, even for me, I didn’t discover the problem with the address until I started looking, which was after I was already suspicous.

The biggest giveaway for me was that the e-mail contained only a link between the greeting and signature. This is always suspicious to me. Of course, some of my friends regularly send e-mails like that. Maybe some of your friends do as well. With those friends, at least that is their pattern for sending e-mails. But, I often don’t click on their links either.

My response to such cases is the following:

* I pay attention to the link itself. I recognized this as likely being a blog. I know that a lot of attempts by attackers use this technique. (It really helps to become familiar with the techniques attackers use so you can recognize attempts when they occur.)

* As a rule, I don’t click on links just because someone sends them. I evaluate the likelihood that it is safe and also whether I think it might actually be of interest.

* If I thought this really did come from my sister, I still wouldn’t click on the link because it looks too much like the style used by attackers. I would contact her first and make sure it really came from her (even if the e-mail address was her true e-mail address) and try to get some more information about it.

(By the way, I did receive an e-mail from my sister later that day. It didn’t have links to blogs, but had actual sentences with relevant remarks. Also, it came from her REAL e-mail address, which was in the format of janiedoe@…… instead of doejane@.)

Final analysis:
The e-mail likely came from someone who was either trying to compromise computers or someone trying to sell something. (I’m sure you’ve seen spam e-mails for weight loss, body part enhancement, pills, etc.)

Be careful when you go through your e-mail. Even if it comes from someone you know or is about something you are interested in. The bad guys will use holidays, events, or anything else to trick us into opening their e-mails.


What else are they likely to do at this time of year? You may have seen e-mails about failed delivery attempts from DHL or UPS. Do you have any packages coming at this time of year? I do.

Image of package on porch, wrapped as gift

In fact, UPS failed to deliver the package I had ordered. The tracking information said it was on the truck for delivery this past Monday, but it didn’t arrive. The next day, it was scheduled again to be delivered. A little after 3:00, I looked online and the tracking info said they had delivered it. Nobody had rung the doorbell but I looked around outside. The package wasn’t here. I had to call the shipper, and they are filling the order again.

But, what if I had gotten an e-mail from UPS? It would be tempting to open it since they had failed their delivery a couple times already. If a bad guy had sent me one of these e-mails in the last couple days, the scenario was ripe for me to open it to find out what was happening with my delivery. Knowing that this is how the bad guys operate, I still wouldn’t have opened the e-mail. I would have gone to the shipping company’s site using the tracking number I already had (which is what I did). Then, I would have called them using the number I already had (which I also did). They said there was nothing they could do since it was marked as delivered.

They didn’t send me an e-mail about this. But what if they had? Do you think I would have opened it, because of being upset about their failures and hoping for some kind of satisfaction? Suppose a bad guy had sent a malicious “failed delivery” e-mail this week. I’ve certainly received a bunch of those in the past. But this time I already knew there were delivery problems. And I wanted it fixed!

What would YOU have done? Would you have clicked to find out what was going on with the failed delivery?


The main thing I want you to take away from this is:
Think before you click.

Many of us are overloaded with information. Some of that comes through e-mail, especially if you get lots of e-mail. If we are feeling like there’s too much information coming our way, it is easy to pay less attention to individual e-mails. That could put us at risk for falling prey to at attacker’s tricks, because we fail to think before opening the e-mail or clicking on a link.

I get a couple hundred e-mails daily. Most of them are never opened. I scan through the sender names and subjects fairly quickly. Some are deleted. I place the majority into an “archive” folder without opening them. They are there if I ever need to refer back to or search for something. Only a few get opened. One of those was the e-mail from my sister. Or rather, the one that looked like it was from my sister.

It is important to keep paying attention. As we open the e-mails that we think are of interest or from someone we want to hear from, we need to be aware of the possibility that it could be a trick. It could be someone pretending to be our family or friend. Or it could be an e-mail about something that is very relevant to our life on that particular day, such as a package that we are trying to get delivered. Holidays are a time that some of the bad guys step up their attacks. It is also a time that we may be more susceptible.

Again, the main thing I want you to take away from this is:
Think before you open or click.

The second thing is to become aware of the tricks the bad guys play so you don’t fall victim to them.